I have noticed a bit of an underlying theme in some of the after glow conversations I’ve had with clients. And this is from clients that are from all of the spaces that I work in and who are from all different walks of life. From the parlour to social dates, outcalls and more.
Now I do tend to find usually a good orgasm (or more) allows for people to speak a little more honestly and openly. It is a highly effective relaxation mechanism after all. I have heard over and over about how worried clients are that seeing an escort is going to be a Big Bad Terrible Time. They get themselves worked up into such a lather that on occasion they can barely speak to me at the beginning of our meeting. It doesn’t have to be that stressful, I promise!
I think it’s all very well and easy for me to say “just chill out” or something equally as ineffective, but honestly there are some very simple tools you can use to self regulate so that the butterflies in your tummy don’t morph into unspeakable terror. A little bit of nervousness can be great, it adds to the excitement, but if you find that it gets away from you and becomes an actual fear response I have a few suggestions:
Number 1 is exercise, if you’re feeling more and more wound up prior to your booking give yourself enough time to at least go for a short walk, or better yet, a longer one! You could also go to the gym the morning of your booking, or swim some laps etc.
Number 2 is breath. Put your phone on silent and stash it away somewhere. Sit somewhere comfortable where you won’t be disturbed. Focus on your breath and breathing fully and deeply into your belly. Inhale through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. Give this a minimum of 5 minutes, 10 or 15 minutes would be even better.
If you find it difficult to self regulate in all different kinds of situations, I found a short, but helpful article that goes into some more detailed/involved ways to address this issue: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-you-can-practice-self-regulation-4163536
Also try to remember that the escort that you’re seeing generally does really want you to have a nice time. That’s sort of the entire point.
I know that I always try my best to make the people I see in bookings feel at ease, if you have nerves please be open about that, we can talk about it and that will make it much easier to get to the really good stuff.
Alex xo