In simple terms, I am aiming to live an embodied sensualist existence each & every day. Last year I coined a term that I feel encapsulates this: an Erotic Life.
What is an Erotic Life?
It’s the ‘stuff’ I use to guide myself on the kind of journey I want to take in my life. It’s certainly proving an interesting ride in the context of COVID-19 & the general global climate. How do I live sensuously when it feels like everything is tumbling around me?
Like any philosophy it has it’s limits. I am also a deeply imperfect human, but it is a set of ideals that I do my best to focus on.
There are elements I draw on from my BodySex training with Betty Dodson & Carlin Ross + all of the amazing facilitators from the retreat & BS training. There are chunks of what I learnt from Barbara Carrellas through Urban Tantra. There are facets & learnings from so many of the remarkable people I’ve met throughout my life. Not to mention the countless books, articles & blogs I immerse myself in.
Mostly I try to do what feels right. What feels authentic, sensual, engaged, courageous & yes, erotic. Eroticism & adventure form a big part of my personality, attitude & outlook. At any given time many of the things I am working on from a personal growth perspective pass through the lens of my sexuality.
It is where my confidence, body positivity, honesty & unabashed pursuit of pleasure draws from. I use my strengths to overcome my weakness & from where I stand the robustness of my sexual identity is a great place to direct from.
Above all I want to have joy in my life! I want to feel in my heart, I want to feel it in my cunt. My desires are valid. I encourage myself to explore. I aim to wake up every part of who I am & get myself out there. Living openly & with curiosity. Living with purpose.
I want to connect my heart to my senses, my brain to my body, my emotions to my breath & break down the blockages inside me so I can be a healthy, flowing happy being. I also want to talk about all of these things, the good & bad, openly & without shame. I was ruled by shame & fear & guilt for a lot of my early adult years. It’s an ongoing process, I will always be working towards deprogramming the sex negativity & body shame that I was raised with.
Above all my sexuality is a worthwhile investment! My sensuality brings out the best in me! Pleasure is good for me & is a truly noble pursuit. I show up for myself, even when it’s uncomfortable because I believe in myself & I want to keep moving myself forward. I also want to help others reach into themselves & find out what’s really there, underneath it all.
I could write about this all day, this blog is quite broad strokes over a whole lot of nuanced topics that I feel really passionately about, but I’m going to finish up in the words of a truly brilliant person Dossie Easton: “Sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.”